I flow against the tide frequently. I’m not a contrarian. I attribute my inquisitiveness the result of my upbringing. I was raised in Peru at a time when children were to be seen and never heard. Questioning adults, whether at home or school, was unspeakable and reason for punishment. Later, as I became an adult in the United States, I learned that the only way to grow and to be happy is to be an independent thinker – even if that means challenging the norm. So, at this time of year, when most people are traditionally making New Year resolutions, I’m taking inventory of the present one. It’s the idea of closing my circles before opening up new ones. For me, it’s a stress-free way to live and a way to grow from past experiences.
I ask myself thousands of questions throughout the year. During the holiday season, however, when business tends to slow down and there’s more time for reflection these are some that reoccur:
- What was the most valuable life lesson I learned this year?
- How can I use this experience to help others?
- Who was (were) the focus of my attention and why?
- Are these individuals helping me to grow/evolve and in what ways?
- How much time did I spend on personal growth?
- What did I focus on? Did I read books, listen to podcasts, attend workshops, join webinars or like-minded communities?
- What was my goal in doing so?
- How did I resolve a challenging situation?
- Did I stick to my values or did I compromise? Why or why not?
- Did I seek out company that aligns with my vision? Why or why not?
- On that note, do I have a vision and what is it?
- Who are the people I seek out when looking for a solution? Are they professionals, role models, influencers, heroes, authors, family members?
- Why do I look for them?
- How much personal and quiet time did I spend?
- How did I spend that time?
- When someone said or did something hurtful, how did I react?
- Could I have handled the situations differently?
- What activities make me happy?
- What can I be doing differently to keep me consistently upbeat and in a positive mindset?
- Where did I travel to this year and why?
- How did I react to new situations and people I met? Was I helpful? Did I have a smile on my face? Was I welcoming? Did I have kind words for them? Was I demanding?
- How do I want to be treated and why?
- How did my diet contribute to the overall health and well-being?
- Is there something I need to change such as diet or lifestyle? What is it and what has kept me from doing it?
- How much time did I spend outdoors in nature? How did I spend that time? What benefit did I get from it?
- What company am I keeping and is it time to reconsider some of those friendships, perhaps add new ones?
- How did I use my personal resources? Could I have given back more?
Annual reviews at work are essential for businesses to grow, so why not do the same thing with your personal life? The more we question, the better we know ourselves. Challenging our mindset and discovering new ways of thinking is how we find solutions and achieve growth. If we live year to year unquestioning, we’re just surviving not thriving.
I hope this gives you something to think about. We’re all differentand we’re all on diverse paths. The questions that pertain to me may not be relevant to your life. But, if you want to grow, take assessment of this year before you move on to the next. Ask yourself, how can I make the upcoming year a stellar one based on how I lived this one?
Here’s wishing you wisdom, peace,joy, love and financial success.