Crushing it at life doesn’t mean wrestling it to the ground. It’s quite the opposite. When you’re aligned, life flows. It’s like riding the top of a wave and letting it carry you through to its unfolding. Doors open, your timing is perfect and everything is effortless. Fighting or struggling is unnecessary.  People who surf through life are well positioned, balanced and they have these 8 traits for crushing it at life.




This is the most important, and oftentimes the most overlooked, step to succeed at just about anything.  When starting a new business or new project, your mission is the first place you start.  Why should it be any different for your life?  Take the time to reflect what you want, why you want it and how you’re going to get there.  If your “why” is big enough your chances of succeeding are great.


Your mission defines your objectives. Having a purpose gives meaning to your existence. It’s no wonder that some people who lose their jobs or become empty nesters seem lost. Their reason for “being” has been taken away. It’s the ones who get up and dust themselves off quickly that win the game.


Why are people like Tony Robbins, Oprah Winfrey, Richard Branson and others at the top of their game? They’ve defined their mission and little deters them from achieving it.  Nothing crushes them, no matter how big the wave is.




While your mission is your purpose, your vision is your desired future. It’s the road map to get you there. Your vision is fueled by an undeniable passion, a reason, a purpose that only you can feel.  Happy people are tuned into and follow their calling. They operate from a place of inspiration, the sweetest place to be.


Vision gives them focus and keeps them from useless distractions, getting sidetrack or meaningless activities that don’t contribute to their mission.


To “crush it” at life, write down your mission and vision statements and put them where you’ll see and be reminded of them every day.




Focus is an unyielding determination to accomplish what you set out to do. Think of a laser beam. Why is it so powerful? It produces an intense and narrow beam of light that can burn through anything.  Be laser-focused, put on blinders and be equally piercing.  Crush through barriers.  Go around, crawl underneath, jump over them.


Falling off the board is bound to happen.  But, if you’re focused, you’ll get right back up again and ride the next wave. With each new ride you’ll see and experience new things.  You may even learn how to do something better.


Focus requires envisioning.  What do you see?  Keep the picture in your mind as often as you can.  Those who achieve their dreams kept them in focus.

This came up on my Facebook feed posted by Jay Shetty, one of my favorite influencers.  “Winners focus on winning, losers focus on winners.”  Which one are you?




We live in a noise-filled world that keeps us from connecting with ourselves and with others. Take time for personal reflection and to be serviceful.  Discipline is the methodology to productivity and success.  It means doing something repeatedly until it seems effortless.  It’s like the muscle memory I’ve gained in Ashtanga yoga. There’s a sequence of postures and having repeatedly done them for so long, they’re now second nature to me.  They’re no longer an effort but an experience I look forward to.


A daily log helps to develop discipline.  It keeps us on track and it’s a way to look back and see how far you’ve gone.  It doesn’t have to be long. A bulleted list will do.


Don’t be tough on yourself when you can’t stick to your regimen. Life happens. Kids may need you. Your pet may fall ill. You may get a flat tire. The boss may want you to stay later.  When you can’t meet what you set out to do, be happy with what you’ve accomplished thus far. Go easy but remain disciplined.


Be clear on the difference between busyness and productivity.  I know a lot of people who have no time for anything yet they seem to accomplish very little.  It’s better to do one thing really well than ten incomplete or meaningless ones, just for the sake of filling your calendar.  When you do something, do it from the heart.  Set your intention to a higher purpose.  Remember the Law of Attraction, what you put out you get back.




When I look at ascended thinkers like Esther (Abraham) Hicks, they have one thing in common. Very little seems to agitate them.  They maintain equilibrium under all kinds of circumstances. They’ve learned not to react under adverse conditions.


Those crushing it at life are observers, not reactors. They see setbacks as growing opportunities. For them, road blocks are stepping stones to go even higher. Life never happens to them. They make life happen. They create circumstances by their mindset and they never think of themselves as victims.


Charles Swindoll best put it:  “The longer I live, the more I realize the impact of attitude on life. … The only thing we can do is play on the one string we have, and that is our attitude … I am convinced that life is 10% what happens to me, and 90% how I react to it.”




The happiest people on earth are unaffected by what others think. “Remaining unswayed by what other people assert” is an ancient teaching for crushing it at life.  Successful people are not special.  They’ve merely learned to listen to their inner voice and drown others out.


Life crushers hang around Masters. They keep like-minded company to strengthen their convictions. Tony Robbins built an empire by drowning out critics and continuously learning from other great achievers.




Masters rarely compare themselves to others. They march to the beat of their own drum. They take risks.  They think out of the box.  They question. They typically don’t follow the norm. They’re always learning, growing and evolving.  This often puts them on a lonely path.  However, like the thrill of riding a wave, it’s an experience you must do on your own. No one else can do it for you.


Those crushing it at life, rarely think of experiences in terms of gain or loss. They go with the flow. Like a surfer, when they fall, they get right back up again. Winners don’t waste thoughts on the fall but on the next ride. To crush it at life, this is the mindset you need.  Think differently than the masses.


Being unique is what makes successful individuals so attractive. A rare object has more value.  It’s more appealing.  It’s sought-after.  Think of someone that inspires you. What stands out about them?  I venture to say you’re attracted to them because they’re unlike anyone else. They’re one of a kind.


Life crushers are not afraid to be themselves, even when people dismiss them as being weird or different. This characteristic makes them stand out.  In some cases, it makes them magnetic.


Those crushing it at life fear or reject being average.  They’re impassioned about growing and are continuously learning.  It’s why they outgrow others and the reason they stand out.




Successful people lead more balanced lives. I was raised to think that things could only be one sided: good or bad, right or wrong, black or white.  This puts too much emphasis in one direction.  It’s taken me a lifetime to understand that what may be right in one situation may not be right in another.


Like a pendulum, ife swings back and forth. It doesn’t favor one side.  From where I’m standing things look very differently to a person across the street. To crush it at life, we need this understanding.  It will keep us from feeling flustered when the pendulum doesn’t rest in our direction.


This awareness comes with life experience.  In Chinese philosophy, it’s the ying and the yang, two sides of the same coin. When we operate from this point of view, we can’t be crushed when waves come.


Keeping balance means not placing too much weight on one side. There’s little benefit to working out if you’re not eating healthily. While having money is fun, using debt to buy things may not be the smartest option. Mental over-stimulation can be disastrous if you can’t keep the mind calm.


They key is to know when we’re out of balance and do something about it.  To be happy, model the Masters and mirror these 8 traits for crushing it at life. You’ve already taken the first step by being here.


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