Have you felt lately that there’s a disconnect amongst people, especially between generations?
Working on my laptop moments ago I overheard my husband reacting out loud to an email he’d just received. “Are you kidding me? Doesn’t this guy know what to do? We’ve been dealing with his company for years!” As he finished his outburst and without thinking, as though I’d been programmed to auto-respond, I said “It is now your opportunity to teach him.”
As I finished saying this, something inside me reverberated like a low voltage current running through my body. And just like that, it rebooted my system and I was filled with inspiration to write again. Words have power.
For the past few weeks, I’d been feeling unmoved, disconnected, uninspired, and somewhat gloomy, which is extremely rare for me. I wondered if it was related to diet, routine, or environment but, with that innate and unplanned response, I realized that what I’d been feeling was a derailment from my mission in life.
I’ve always been a connector, a quiet ambassador bringing people together and sharing ideas. With something as small as my husband’s verbal eruption, my reset button was pushed. Thank goodness! There’s nothing worse than waking up in the morning with a purposeless feeling. With this electrical nudging, I realized the roadblock was where I was focusing. It was time to change course.
I don’t buy into the idea of a successive and invariable life existence: be born, go to school, get a job, make money, get married, have children, and die. When we get stuck in this kind of thinking, we miss out on the beauty of life and disconnect from others who may have different world views.
Evolution is non-linear. As with plants, the circular or elliptical orbits of atoms and planets never clash but work in perfect harmony with each other.
The patterns of plants are miraculous and absolutely beautiful because they’re not straight. Look at the design of the sunflower. It follows the Fibonacci pattern: 1, 2, 3, 5, 8, 13, 21, 34, 55, 89, 144… Each number in the sequence is the sum of the previous two numbers. It doesn’t follow a straight pattern of 1, 2, 3, 4, etc.
Similarly, life does not unfold in sequence, despite what we have been conditioned to believe. I know. I followed that path and taught our children that course. Luckily I’m still around to course correct and share with them more evolved ways of thinking.
How often have you set out steps to reach a goal only to find that you had to adjust the path? When we lead unyielding lives, we get off track because nature does not behave in a straight line nor independently of other objects. Life makes detours along the way and when we know this, it’s easier to navigate. Problems, bumps and bends on the road propel us forward.
Yesterday, while lunching with one of my dearest friends and her daughter, another “automated response” came out of me. The young scholar shared a challenge she’s facing as she plans her career. I shared with her that problems are given to us because the Universe loves us. Can you imagine how boring life would be if we knew that everything will go according to plan? There would be little adventure in our lives. Blockages force us to look for new venues and other possibilities.
Our fates are not predetermined. The Universe never takes our power of choice away. Quite the oppositive. We can respond or react to problems and thus create the outcome for any situation. The double-slit experiment in quantum physics explains how this works.
We’re here to be in community, not in competition. Our purpose is to interact, experience diversity, and have contrast. Life comes with adjustments, twists, and turns. A linear existence is not only an outdated way of thinking but a seriously erroneous belief that no longer serves humanity. It suggests that we exist alone.
As the double-slit experiment shows, until we look at, pay attention to, or decide to observe something, everything is just an infinite possibility. We’re powerful, we’re in control and we get to choose.
Problems are the Universe’s way of showing us that we have infinite choices in how to see and experience life. We can let a difficult situation keep us down or we can use it as a stepping stone to rise. Why do we perceive something as “bad” when we have the freedom to see it as an opportunity to do something better or differently?
To illustrate this point, one year ago my youngest son was devastated after breaking up with his girlfriend of some years. At the time he couldn’t stop comparing his situation with his friends, many of who are already married. He was convinced that he had “lost” eight years of his life and could not fathom that this situation meant that he now had endless new and wonderful possibilities.
At his lowest point, somehow he managed to get on a plane to Greece to attend his best friend’s engagement party, only to meet the woman of his dreams. He’s now engaged and planning to marry soon.
In 2003, shortly after returning from my first volunteer trip abroad to Bolivia, I had the calling to start a non-religious NGO for individuals to participate in short-term international projects to serve poor and homeless populations. Friends thought that I was mad because they knew that my husband and I were going through a financial crisis. We had no money for basics, let alone, for lofty goals. Little did I know that a chat with a friend, recounting my wonderful experiences, would result in her law firm creating, incorporating, and representing the humanitarian agency that I spearheaded for some years. The Universe doesn’t deal in currency. It doesn’t understand business plans or linear projections. It hears us through our feelings, and our vibrational frequencies, and it responds accordingly. The more we tell it we like something, the more of it we get!
What does all this have to do with my husband’s outburst about an email? Simply that, though we’ve been conditioned to think and expect things in a timeline, we’re shortchanging ourselves by thinking this way. When things don’t go the way we’re used to, that’s our opportunity to evolve. Our greatest experiences happen when we change course.
Whether we realize it or not, each one of us is a walking book and a teacher. What are others seeing when they look at us? What are we projecting? We’ll never know if and how we affect or inspire someone. For those of us who’ve orbited this earth many more times than others, why don’t we use our experiences to teach, inspire and motivate? I’m not perfect but, I hope that by sharing my stories I’m making a difference in someone’s life and helping to connect people.
There is an unimaginable number of stars, planets, asteroids, comets, wormholes, galaxies, supernovas, and yet-to-be-discovered objects in the Universe. Like the endless cosmos, the human body is made up of limitless germs, bacteria, viruses, and yet-to-be-identified components that have existed and transmuted in the human body since the beginning of time.
And, like the constantly evolving Universe, so is our DNA and human body morphing. As above, so below. As I see it then, trying to control or regulate the evolution/mutation/metamorphosis of ever-changing germs, bacteria, and viruses inside the human body is playing an unachievable game of catch up.
For the last 18 months, I’ve been exploring scientific findings, that mainstream scientists have not revealed, on the potential of the human body and mind. I’ve found countless materials on self-healing and auto-regulation by scientists like Dr. Bruce Lipton, Dr. Joe Dispensa, Dean Radin, Gregg Braden, the Heart Math Institute, and many, many others.
Humans did not appear on this earth with pharmaceuticals, licensed doctors nor therapy sessions but instead, they found themselves in a “garden of Eden” with plenty of fresh air, organic food, open spaces, clean water, plants, and herbs that are also evolving.
In harmony with nature, let’s give our bodies a chance to do what they do best: regenerate and self-heal.
So, while pharma, politicians, and the media battle it out, I’ve been putting to practice some non-mainstream discoveries and ancient practices with great success…
PHOTO by NASA on UNSPLASH
It’s December 22, 2020 and I’ve lived through, as has the rest of the world, the most intense nine months of my life. COVID made two pregnancies, C-Sections and a 30+ hour delivery, feel like a spa treatment in Bali.
Despite the mass hysteria that took over at the beginning of the pandemic causing shortages of toilet paper, sanitizer and face masks, along with the increasing number of casualties and seeing people become paralyzed by fear, I’ve maintained equanimity. Don’t get me wrong. I haven’t buried my head in the sand, I’ve just chosen to look at the situation differently.
To get me through I practiced what I know best, which is to find answers from within and to use common sense. I’m 63 years old and my husband is 74. We’re not partying with large groups of people nor attending big gatherings until there’s a solution to the virus. We wash our hands with soap and hot water upon re-entering our house and before eating a meal. We taught our children to cover their mouths if they’re going to cough or sneeze and to stay home if they’re unwell. These are not new practices for us. It’s our lifestyle.
I seldom rely on the news. After all, I can find as many opinions in favor of a topic as I can against it. If I relied on mainstream reporting, I’d be paralyzed with fear as are thousands of people currently across the globe. Media and news are in the business of making money out of alarmism. It’s Sales Principle 101.
Every sales class I’ve ever taken teaches that humans are far more driven to take action based on fear rather than gain. Look around. There are countless individuals thinking the worst and allowing scare tactics to dictate their behavior. I know someone who has barricaded herself in her house since March. This is not how I want to live. So, I’ve drowned out listening to the fear mongers and made the intentional choice to live as joyfully and peacefully as I can, no matter how long this lasts or whatever else comes along. I want to light the way for others to do the same.
I’m not immune to the virus. My immediate family all got it. They’re alright now and I believe that it was their mindset that played the greatest role in their quick recoveries. But not everyone is fueled by positive thoughts. And this is precisely the point of this article.
During the height of the virus, contractors came and went in and out of my house. I didn’t force them to wear masks but I was appreciative of those who did. It was an intentional decision on my part not to demand it. I knew the risk that I was taking but I wanted to enjoy life as normally as possible.
C19 didn’t deter me from taking a cross-country road trip in October. It was an adventure I’ve always wanted to have and an experience I checked off my bucket list. I have new adventures planned for 2021.
I’ll admit that I have moments of weakness when angst creeps in. The longer this virus goes unresolved and the more time I spend in closed quarters with my life partner, who does not see the world as I do, the situation tries my patience.
I’m a solution-oriented individual and I know that every problem has more than one solution. Still, on occasion, when concern gets the better of me I remind myself that I’m in control of my thoughts and that I can change negativism in an instant.
There are a number of things, such as turning to Master thinkers and Zooming with like-minded friends, that help me to blow away dark clouds, especially in times when everyone around me is singing a dirge.
Foremost I isolate and go inside. I drown out other people’s chatter, especially if it comes from the media or doomsayers. I align with positive thoughts and follow my intuition. This practice is called heart/brain coherence. Check out the Heart Math Institute or Gregg Braden on the subject.
To calm myself, I take long slow deep breaths and repeat affirmations such as:
- All is well
- I have inner peace
- My natural state is that of well being
- This too shall pass
- Nothing lasts forever
- We’re going through a recalibration
- I’ve been in worse situations and I always come out better
- There’s a lesson in this and I’m going to ace the class
- I’m not alone
- I am light
- I am energy
- Energy doesn’t get sick
- Energy doesn’t hurt
- Energy can transform but it can never be destroyed
- I’m appreciative and thankful for… and then I list a barrage of things that I’m grateful for starting with the ability to choose my thoughts.
I know these affirmations are true deep in my bones, so why do I doubt at times? I’m human, after all. How else can I know what I want if I don’t know what I don’t want? We all need contrast to be able to choose preferences. They key is to focus on what we desire. This is an attraction-based Universe. If I don’t want fear to paralyze me, I get up, dust myself off and visualize what I want.
We’ve ascended into the age of Aquarius. This new era began about fifty years ago, a period when the common good will drive most of our thoughts and actions. We had plenty of practice in the last millennia to consider better ideas and ways of implementing them. We made huge errors in the past from decisions taken from a place of fear and scarcity rather than from a place of love, cooperation and abundance.
In community, rather than in opposition or competition, we will solve problems in innovative ways and we will all thrive. Remaining frozen in fear is not part of that equation.
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The way I see it the COVID lockdown worked in our favor. Instead of feeling that something happened to us, I feel that something happened for us. I discovered many things about myself that I probably would not have realized had I not had the time to reflect. These are some of the lessons the pandemic taught me. Let me know if you can relate to any of them. Better yet, feel free to share what you learned during this time of isolation.
I noticed that in the early weeks of the shutdown, which in the United States began the second week in March, a lot of people went MIA. They simply disappeared. They became reclusive or turned to alcohol and drugs for answers. Some have found their way out. Others engaged private concierge physicians and lawyers to find answers and the rest are still struggling. I found this period to be a great time to gain strength.
One of my favorite sayings is, “this too shall pass.” Everything does. Nothing is constant other than change. If we embrace this truth, when each storm comes we’re better prepared. I believe that parents have a heads up when it comes to resiliency. As often as they’re tested by their children most of the time they spring right back up.
Resilient individuals do not easily get sucked into mass hysteria. I’ve learned to drown outside voices and surround myself around mindful thinkers. I don’t listen or watch the news 24/7 and, except for business, I spend a lot less time on social media than before the shutdown. When I feel my resilience ebbing, I reach out to masterminds in my community and remind myself of all the times I got through difficult moments.
PATIENCE AND STILLNESS
We all gave up something during the shutdown. Whether it was the inability to go to my favorite restaurant or shop at my convenience or having to stand in line, I didn’t die from any of these changes. In fact, altering my routine made me wonder why I rushed so much before.
The “new normal” reminded me that there’s always something positive I can contribute, even if it’s only a small gesture. We can’t know how showing someone appreciation, giving them an extra tip or just saying “thank you” may touch them. If we’re doing it from the heart and with loving intention, it doesn’t matter. We’ve planted a seed. I’d like to think we’ll all strive to be this way moving forward.
I enjoyed not rushing, keeping schedules or attending meetings though, I’ll admit, initially I was a little disoriented especially for someone who is used to the fast pace of the New York tri-state area.
I had many new and lovely experiences during lockdown. I found a massive (easily 30+ pounds) fresh-water turtle in a nearby creek and visited him/her on a couple of occasions. When I returned it lifted its head above the water as though to say it recognized me.
For some weeks I also watched a pair of wrens build a nest and feed their babies until they were ready to fly away. They knew I was there because on several occasions they’d do a song and dance for me. In my heart I knew this was a dance of joy that I was participating in such a beautiful development rather than a dance of warning or fear. Daily the parents perched on a rail outside my window and used it as a springboard to their nest to carry worms and bugs in their beaks to feed their chicks.
On the last day before the family left, I got to see one of the hatchlings fly out of the nest for the first time. I was close enough to notice his head covered in virgin downy and his bright pink little feet. They reminded me of shiny new shoes. How privileged I felt to witness nature this close in the still of the moment. It was an experience I would have easily missed during a “normal” day.
With few cars on the road and less emissions in the air our spring this year rolled out slower than usual giving plants and flowers the opportunity to display more vivid colors than in the past.
At the beginning of the lockdown, when we were all trying to make sense of what was going on, I used the extra time to learn new skills and advance in my profession.
I took several classes and workshops on numerous topics. Some courses for my license lasted several days and the material was grueling. Still, I passed the exams, received designations and became an expert in areas that few others dare to tread. I now stand out in my marketplace where there’s a lot of competition.
I believe in learning new skills and disciplines throughout life, not for the sake of titles, degrees or to impress but to better understand other points of view and to expand my way of thinking. It’s one of the reasons I love to travel. I love to experience new cultures and make global friends. Travel has opened my heart and made me more compassionate.
I’m happiest absorbing new information well knowing that I get to choose what I put to practice.
This period of quarantine taught me to be a selective consumer of online content, though most of the adventure was in navigating and sifting through a lot of online rubbish. I watched documentaries, multi-cultural and historical material. Not always but I “fact checked” many of the programs I watched. I know, pathetic, but I enjoyed the challenge and I learned a lot.
The greatest part of working from home was the ability to teach online and help people keep momentum in their businesses. I received a lot of satisfaction teaching neophytes how to use video conferencing, placing ads online and helping people transition their business from brick and mortar into the digital space.
The shutdown allowed me to reconnect with friends that I’d lost touch with. I spent time listening to adventures they’ve been on and catching up on years we’ve spent apart. We’ve all come full circle and reached similar conclusions about life.
In my desire to bring value to the world, I got out of my comfort zone and joined several new social groups during lockdown. It’s wonderful making new friends, hearing their stories and sharing our skills. These new communities have been eye opening, thought provoking and mostly humbling.
I longed for physical contact with friends during isolation. Social distancing, touching elbows or locking ankles just doesn’t give me the satisfaction that holding a hand, hugging or kissing does. As long as I can remember I’ve loved leisurely conversations sitting around a table with friends while sipping a cup of coffee.
I would have fit right into the Parisian cafes of the 1920’s where masterful writers and thinkers met on a regular basis. These were community gathering places to discuss current issues and exchange leading edge ideas. Great books, paintings and social change came out of this time and I have the same sense about the new communities I’ve joined.
There’s a wonderful energy exchange that takes place in physical proximity to others that can’t be duplicated over a video call. One of my closest friends says that I will be remembered for coming up with great ideas and solutions over a cup of latte.
Quiet time at home helped me to identify what’s is truly important to me, what I want most in life and how to get there. I created a list of items I’ve yet to achieve. The list keeps me on track, motivated and focused. It’s a process or modus operandi for my personal life. In order of importance, these are my daily priorities:
- Reflection/Meditation/Mindset/Alignment with Source
- Healthy foods
Why these three first? If I don’t take care of my body, mind and soul how can I be of help to others? These practices give me peace, harmony, joy, balance and set the tone to how I interact with the world.
- Family and friends
- Profession, Money
- Travel & Acquisitions
When I make the first three practices a priority, the second three flow to me with ease.
Shutdown reminded me how important it is to connect with my Higher self. I spent longer periods of inner quietness during lockdown. When I was stressed, feeling fear, distracted or disoriented, meditation gave me clarity and calmness. In meditation I get answers to problems I struggle with and ideas flow with ease.
I was concerned about keeping physically fit during shutdown. I started drinking more water, wearing less or no makeup, going for walks, enjoying nature and eating far more fruits and vegetables than ever before. Thanks to Zoom and live classes, I practiced Ashtanga yoga more. The combination of long slow posture movements tied to the breath creates intense inner heat. The practice burns out toxins through the sweat. The thinning of the blood improves blood and lymph flow, nurtures the body with loads of nutrients and keeps dis-ease at bay. I challenged myself in ways that tell me I’m only as limited as my thinking.
Whether it’s a massage, stretching or something as mundane as a mani/pedi when I pamper my body, I feel rejuvenated.
Of the many lessons I learned during the pandemic, the greatest is to not buy into mass belief. Weather hoarding out of shortage fear or blindly following the news, I’ve become a selective consumer of information.
Knowing that a handful of media companies control the news, I realize it’s in their interest to put out “consumable material.” Alarmism and exaggeration sell. Transparent and truthful journalism disappeared some time ago.
I can find data supporting opposite sides of any topic. So how do I know who is telling the truth or which side is right? I don’t. The best thing that I can do, in addition to due diligence, is to stick with my gut feeling.
There’s huge scientific evidence to support the benefits of going with your instinct. Numerous books have been written on the subject. Blink, by Malcolm Gladwell, is one of the best books on the subject. We all have a built-in guiding system that hints at what resonates as true. It’s always right. We have forgotten how to rely on it in this noise-filled world. Meditation helps to tap and refine the skill.
I’m not an anarchist, I’ve always respected the law and I’ve never seriously had doubts about authority. But, I’ll admit that, recently I’ve begun to question some leadership practices and the misuse of power.
Just because someone has a title or wears a uniform does not give them green light to abuse their position. I’m not one to keep quiet when I see an injustice. How I express my disapproval is my right and I will not pass judgement on how others speak their voices. We all want to be heard, we all have the freedom to choose how and we all have the right to peaceful co-existence. But we also all have the responsibility to speak up.
I learned that I can live happily with very little. I’ve always been a minimalist and, on a couple of occasions, new guests have asked if we just moved in. I decluttered considerably during isolation. I threw out and donated many personal and household items starting with those that I hadn’t used in over one year or had stored in boxes.
It feels great to lighten my load. My possessions are meaningful but I’m not my acquisitions and they don’t rule my life. They’re merely an expression of what I like and they don’t define who I am.
The quarantine gave me time to think about people who have transitioned. What do I remember about them? It’s not the things they owned or left behind but how they made me feel. The greatest lesson the pandemic taught me is to use speech, communication and expression to help people see a brighter vision for the future. It’s as certain as change.
I’d love to hear what lessons the pandemic taught you.
Ever heard that thoughts turn into things or the idea that what we think about (focus on) we bring about? This is not airy fairy thinking. In the double slit experiment, quantum physicists have proven that depending on which path an atom takes, its light can shine brighter in some spots than in others. Furthermore, they found that atoms have the ability or wisdom to decide where to land.
In an effort to understand how this test relates to our life experience, you may want to watch this short video.
Applying the experiment to our lives, consider that if we only had one slit to go through (only one way to live), we would have a predictable existence. There would be one outcome only. Thankfully that’s not the case and the Universe has given us infinite slits of opportunities or choices to create the lives we truly desire. We’re not limited. We’re not predestined. We’re not drones. We’re not cornered. We’re not controlled. We have a mind, a brain and the power to choose an outcome of our doing.
Everything in the Universe is made of vibrational waves. In this experiment, the brightest and greatest concentration of light is found at the center. Like a rainbow, it’s made up of the full color spectrum making it a brilliant white. Humans, on the other hand, vibrate monochromatically, only one color.
Every one of our experiences is a culmination of choices. Every decision that we make, each slit we choose to go through, each life provides us with an opportunity to finish what we’ve left undone, a lesson to get right or a new experience to grow from. Our ultimate goal seems to be synchronicity with the white light.
Imagine aligning with the Source of light on our first attempt. It would be like skipping out on the college experience just to get the diploma. How boring would that be? What would you do with the rest of eternity? Challenges and obstacles make life exciting, energetic and stimulating. We need contrast to learn and to evolve.
The detector of the atoms in the experiment represents each one of us. Like the person observing the test, we’re observers of our experience, not the experience itself. Our awareness is not tied to our physicality and our consciousness is separate from our bodies. When we part ways, our non-physical still exists.
We have the power to deliberately increase or decrease the number of times we return to the human experience. When we eventually align with the brightest light of all, we’ve reached what some call Enlightenment. We need not be frightened of transitioning. Einstein proved that energy can never be destroyed merely altered in his theory of relativity E = MC2.
The split test also shows that atoms have a built-in intelligence. Like human sperm, they contain an inner guiding system showing us the way. We, too, are part of something bigger and we carry within us a GPS system to get us back home.
We’re observers of our lives. We’re consciousness and not the experience itself. We have the power to create the kind of experience we want.
We have endless slits to choose from. Knowing what I know today, the reason I get up, dust myself off and try again is because I know there’s a brighter experience waiting. I’m using this period of human evolution to experience nature, go for walks, take in fresh air, help others, close circles I’ve left opened, be there for my loved ones and create a bright life experience.
Perhaps the hippies got it right when they concluded that vibrations and resonance are behind human consciousness. Hey, they’re not the only ones looking for rainbows. I’m in the queu.
I’m not a serial social media consumer. I don’t spend countless hours posting nor reading feeds. My main reason for participating is to offer solutions, share different ways of seeing the world and ultimately light the way for hope, especially for those who may not be part of a tribe or community that they can count on.
In this context, I’d like to offer some ideas as to how we can maintain equanimity and a positive outlook during these uncertain times.
This too shall pass. Life is an ebb and flow of change, nothings remains forever.
Talk and hang around positive-minded and solution-oriented individuals.
Focus on helping others. Do you have a shut-in neighbor who could possibly use a friendly and reassuring face or conversation?
Trust that the best in people comes out during times of crisis. I had a situation this morning when a driver gave me the right of way with a friendly smile, when he didn’t have to.
Conflict and contrast are needed in order for us to grow and improve. Without problems there are no solutions. Difficult situations help us to evolve, grow and change.
Be a selective and wise consumer of online content. Rely on personal experience not opinions.
Remember that media is in the business of putting out content. It doesn’t have to be the truth. It doesn’t have to be factual. It just has to be consumed. Information can be manipulated by those who stand to gain. The insurance industry thrives on anxiety, despair and dread. What better way to sell, sell, sell than to appeal to people’s fears.
Let me give you an example. I just returned from 2 months in Spain and France. We didn’t see anyone wearing masks, talking about the virus, no one showing symptoms, no lines at grocery stores, no cancellation of appointments, nada. While I was there, no one talked about it.
Meanwhile, back in the U.S. as I stood in line this morning to buy groceries at my retailer, 28 miles from New York city, besides the obvious inflated crowds and several empty shelves, a lady began to argue with me that she knows better about what is going on in those countries because she heard it in the news… how sad… I’m not saying the C-virus isn’t there, I’m just saying make an opinion based on personal experience.
Pandemic viruses and bacteria have been around for millennia. Take the Black Death, Bubonic Plague or other toll taking diseases and note that, while unfortunately they took many lives, the majority lived through them.
The human body is a bag of viruses and bacteria. We’ve had pandemic diseases in the past. I venture to say that the real killer is stress, negative thoughts and fear.
While the Internet has streamlined and, for many, made our lives easier the danger is that it can also hype up or magnify a problem, a lie or an agenda in a globally connected world.
The Corona Virus is great test of our discernment and character. I ask myself, am I being an alarmist or a positive influencer? How am I helping in these uncertain times?
If all you have to offer someone is a positive outlook, you’ve given them the greatest gift of all: hope.
Follow those who have shown composure during times of crisis. Act on logic, not emotion.
Begin your day by making a mental list of all that you’re grateful for before looking at your newsfeed.
Do what is necessary to remain safe and healthy but ask yourself, are you acting on fear or fact? Clearly, I believe in a common- sense approach and reducing the chances of contraction. This includes maintaining a clean mostly green diet, exercise, balanced with self-awareness, spirituality and surrounding myself with friends that are healthy of body, mind and soul.
Turn to your inner self for answers and comfort during times of uncertainty.
When you’re feeling uptight, close your eyes take at least 6 long slow deep breaths and remind yourself that your natural state is that of well-being.
Stay away from naysayers.
Keep your spirits up. Do things that inspire you and make you happy. Take up an interest you may have left behind.
Spend more time with your loved ones.
Now is a good time to catch up on a book you’ve been wanting to read or start the one you’ve been wanting to write. Take care of matters you’ve been putting off.
Spend time doing a little soul searching, re-evaluating priorities and taking on purposeful activities. How can you better invest your time, energy and gifts so you don’t have to go on endless vacations from your life?
Think out of the box. How you can turn today’s situation into impactful positive change.
For example, our youngest son pointed out last night that there are countless people without health insurance who are seriously concerned about what will happen should they come down with C-virus. Now is a great time for venture capitalists, philanthropists and idea promoters to come up with ways to offer affordable health insurance for all.
While we make the best and figure this out, I practice common sense actions like:
Sanitize or wash hands with hot water and soap throughout the day especially when handling food or if you’ve been out and about.
Refrain from attending group gatherings. Work remotely.
Keep distance from anyone showing flu-like symptoms.
Use tissues or towels to open doors, sneeze, etc. and dispose/wash them afterward.
Together, we’ll get through this time in history, look back one day and know that we learned something new. Call me PollyAnna, if you wish, but my real name is Roxana. Look up what it means.
I was prompted to write this in response to someone’s question about karma and a religious upbringing. Here’s my take on Karma in under 500 words. What you put out you get back. We return if we don’t learn and grow from an experience in a previous life.
Reincarnation is not a punishment. It’s quite the opposite. It’s a loving gesture from Source (God, Infinite Intelligence, The Matrix – whatever you call that power greater than yourself) giving us another opportunity to get it right. When we “graduate” we ascend into a higher dimension and eventually become highly evolved spiritual Masters. Some would say Gods.
Karma is not a judgement imposed on us by a far away or hard to identify with Super Being or deity who has a rule book of some sort. We’ve grown past that juvenile form of thinking. Judgement was created by man-made religious institutions to serve those in power to keep the masses under their control. I don’t recall churches, synagogues or temples appearing at the Big Bang or in the first few million years of creation.
Is it a wonder why in today’s information age so many are falling apart? Thanks to instant access to information, self-serving practices can easily come to light at the pointing of a smart-phone camera. Look at what’s happening throughout Latin America.
Religious institutions judge us and then we judge ourselves. These faulty man-made decrees have been ingrained in us to keep us blind and to block us from growing. They no longer serve a fast AWAKENING global society. Now that we know better, we can take back our power and know for certain that we’re the only ones responsible for our self-judgements and karma.
Karma is reaching a level of awarness and enlightenment that allows us to live in a state of growth and ecstasy. So long as we don’t harm anyone or anything, intentionally I may add, we’re not creating karma. Our natural state is that of well-being. We’re meant to live in joy and the only way to achieve this is to exist in harmony with the rest of creation.
I was raised an orthodox Latin American Catholic, nearly converted to Judaism, was a minister in the Methodist Church and for many years have studied Eastern and Western spirituality. I now understand that our thoughts create our reality, so they might as well be ones that serve the highest good for all. With this intention driving all of one’s actions, a place of love, we rid ourselves of Karma.
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I used to wonder how those who thrive, those who live with joy, peace and harmony did it. I’ve studied great sages and master thinkers both from a scientific as well as from a spiritual perspective. I’ve delved into their behaviors, their mindset, their motivation and their evolution. In all the information I found, the most important for me is what drove them to their awakening and how they reached fulfillment.
This article is food for thought only. Its purpose is not to validate, endorse or challenge any beliefs or sources. It’s up to you to question, research and come to your own conclusions.
If you believe that our existence is non-linear and that we come back or that we live in parallel universes, did you ever question why that would be? Ever wonder why some people feel or claim to have lived other lives or why you may have a sense of familiarity with someone you just met for the first time?
My intuition tells me that, if any of these are true, we return for a chance at a “do over.” Perhaps under different circumstances we improve, expand our way of thinking, ascend to a higher dimension or take a quantum leap into evolution. We know that our Universe is expanding and if we’re part of that Universe it makes sense that we’re growing, too.
Past life regression experts, creation enthusiasts, spiritual channelers, even open-minded scientists, believe that many present-day human beings lived during some of the Golden Ages – periods of the earth’s history when the population had heightened awareness or enlightenment and that some are here today to help others ascend.
These are considered the six Golden Ages of earth:
ANGALA – the initial inhabitants of earth after the Big Bang and closest to angelic-like beings
PETRANIUM – when Africa ruled and lands were lush and verdant
MU – founded in the Pacific region and citizens vibrated at a higher frequency than today
LEMURIA – populated by beings from other universes who came to reside on earth. This may explain the countless mummified three-fingered humanoids found over the years in Peru’s Nazca caves. Lemurians respected nature. They loved plants and trees because they knew they’re alive.
ATLANTIS – the time when the Temple of Poseidon was built which housed the Great Crystal that transmitted direct Source energy. Levitation was used for many purposes including travel and building extremely large structures like the pyramids.
AQUARIUS – the age we’re just entering
There’s no doubt that visible changes are happening on planet earth today. Whether or not these are indicators that we’re entering a new Age of consciousness is yet to be determined. There seems to be little dispute today, however, that what we do on one side of the planet affects the other. We’re just now realizing that the entire globe is inter-dependent.
The belief that everything is connected to a single field of Energy is rapidly growing. We’re just now beginning to understand this field of energy. In fact, there’s a branch of neuropsychology called panpsychism, the view that all matter has some form of associated consciousness. At the height of the Golden Age of Atlantis everyone knew this to be a fact. They also knew that in cooperation we can all achieve much higher, much better and much healthier existences.
The Temple of Poseidon was in the center of the city of Atlantis. It housed a gigantic quartz crystal nearly the size of a skyscraper that transmitted power from the heavens, Source, God, the Matrix, whatever you call that energy that created everything. People went to the Temple to reconnect, get answers or to “recharge.” It’s what happens when we’re in deep meditation. Ever wonder why we use quartz in watches or silicon to make computer chips? These crystal elements have the ability to retain memory and information like the alleged Great Crystal of Atlantis.
The Temple of Poseidon housed the tenets; guidelines for society to thrive. No one was forced to conform but the majority lived by these, which is why everyone was happy, healthy and prosperous.
At the height of the Golden Age, there were no shortages of resources, no competition, no wars, no dictators and no environmental problems. Everyone worked for the highest and best good of all. Currency did not exist. The economy was based on a barter system. Those (very few) who chose to live outside the city limits were always welcomed back and they were never judged.
People lived in bliss because they knew about and followed Seven Universal Laws:
The Law of One is the belief that all things are one, that there is no polarity, no disharmony, no right or wrong and that there’s only One identity. It tells us that the Universe is one living system and that everything is connected to a Source and that is Love, Light, the Infinite Creator.
Karma means action. The Law of karma is about the positive or negative consequences of our words, thoughts or deeds. Have you ever heard the saying: “what goes around, comes around?” What we think, say or do creates a corresponding energy that comes back to us in some form or another.
When we understand Karma, the only course of action is to treat others as we wish to be treated.
Ever heard “what you think about you bring about?” The Law of Manifestation is is the idea that thoughts turn to things. An idea, a thought or a feeling, given enough momentum and time, materializes. Thoughts, like the material world, are just energy. Whatever you focus on, you bring into your reality.
In this light, if you want to gain clarity in life, you need to connect with something greater than yourself. The best way to do this is to meditate or quiet your mind. In meditation you get glimpses of what is possible, for your fulfillment, for your mission, for being of service.
If you wonder what direction to take in life ask yourself the following. If you remain on your current trajectory, what does your life look like in 5, 10, 15, 20 years? Next, visualize what you want it to look like and stay focused on that vision.
For me, the highest level of service that I can offer is to show up at my highest and best. While I wait for the manifestations of things that I desire, I take action, remain optimistic, have fun and spend time as I wish.
THE LAW OF GRACE
The Law of Grace encourages us to open our hearts to unconditional love by offering grace to others through mercy, compassion, empathy, forgiveness and unconditional love. No matter what others have done to us, the Law of Grace reminds us to forgive, if we want to be forgiven, understand if we want to be understood, to love if we want to be loved.
THE LAW OF RESPONSIBILITY
The Law of Responsibility reminds us that we are solely responsible for everything that we are and will be, for everything that we have (or don’t) and everything that we achieve. The wonderful thing about this law is that we have the power to change our present condition at any time. So, if something isn’t working out, we have the ability to make it better.
Changing our modus operandi or “reinventing ourselves” is part of that responsibility when life isn’t going our way. The important thing to remember is that contrast is the Universe’s way of telling us to go in a different direction. “When you think you’re being blocked, look again. You’re being made. The circumstances that prevented you from moving forward are teaching you the determination to win. Remember, you’re built for every brick thrown at you and every challenge you conquered. Be patient with the process. Strong foundations are not created by chance, they’re built when you use your experiences to shape your happiness.” – Abraham Hicks.
Not all negative things are bad. Say you’re fired. It may be time to try something completely different that may be more consistent with your desires, interests and values. If we’re to grow, we must be receptive to new ways of thinking and acting.
New paths give us the opportunity for exploration. If you want to have fun in life, expect the unexpected. Don’t worry about failing. So long as we’re “failing” forward, we’re expanding. Contrast is necessary for our evolution. How else can we know what we like if we don’t know what we don’t like? Keep trying until you find fulfillment.
The Law of Responsibility applies to how we live, how we co-exist with nature, how we treat our animals, how we look after our bodies. This includes healthy eating habits and fitness. It takes into consideration recycling resources and improving, even replacing, existing technologies with ones that are better for our environment.
THE LAW OF UNCONDITIONAL LOVE
The Law of Unconditional Love means to love ourselves and others without judgment, conditions or expectations. It’s the idea of accepting everyone as they are.
This is one of the hardest laws to live by, especially when someone has wronged or harmed us. Under those circumstances the best way to remain in control of our happiness is to understand that those who hurt us have, knowingly or not, cut themselves off from Source. But you don’t have to.
THE LAW OF INTENTION
Have you ever said to someone have a “good day” when deep down you really didn’t mean it? You may tell someone you love them when in your heart that’s not the case at all. The Law of Intention says that it’s not through our words that we create good or bad karma, but through the intention behind them. Say what you mean and mean what you say. Intend for others only what you want for yourself. It’s interesting to note that science is just now catching up with what mystics have known for millenia about the Law of Intention.
It’s taken me decades to “unlearn” many beliefs that I was taught by well-intentioned individuals and institutions but I’ve always intuitively known that there must be a higher way of living.
Whether or not the Golden Ages of earth existed is not the point of this article. The intention is to get us to higher ways of thinking and better ways of living. What do the happiest people on earth know that other’s don’t? We’re the Creators of our own happiness. I think I’m on the right track. My heart beats in rhythm with the spirit of Atlantis and I’m happy.
These are sources and Master thinkers whose ideas contributed to this article.
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We live in the digital age. Spending time and engaging on the Internet is daily routine for most people and oxygen if you’re under 30. If you’re a digital marketer or if social media is part of your job description, your extended engagement online is how you earn a living and that’s understandable. Reading the news, surfing the net for information or working online are important activities. But, if your career or responsibilities do not require many hours in front of the screen, you may have developed a habit… and habits are hard to break. Here are 10 signs that you may be addicted to social media.
REACHING FOR YOUR PHONE FIRST THING
What is the first thing that you reach for when you wake up? Is it your partner’s touch, your pet, a glass of water, your hairbrush? Or, is it your phone? Has your gadget become a habitual morning friend like your toothbrush?
Ask yourself why? Are you looking for the day’s news, the weather or do you want to see how many likes and followers you have?
Change up the routine. Next time you stretch out your arm to find your phone, reach for something else instead. Better yet, rest quietly in bed and go on a mental appreciation rampage before hopping out. It’s a great way to start the day.
CONSTANTLY LOOKING FOR LIKES AND COMMENTS
Large followings and likes are important when developing a brand or an online business but wanting excessive personal validation on social media could be a sign of insecurity. It’s an unreal and unsustainable form of social acceptance. In fact, it does just the opposite, spending too much time on social platforms makes you socially unfit.
If building on the number of likes you have is important, here’s one way to use your skill productively. Make it a challenge to see if you can get more and more likes each day and then teach someone how to build a business or a brand this way. The point is don’t just do it for the sake of stroking your ego.
Followings are a trap and not at all an indicator of your value to others. Not everyone is a multibillionaire like Jeff Bezos, or a supermodel like Giselle Bundchen or a hyper philanthropist like Oprah Winfrey. You’ll probably never hit millions of followers the way they have but it doesn’t make you any less worthy. You are unique and super in some way. We all are, we all have something unique and special about ourselves to share with the world. It’s the reason we’ve been put on this earth! Spend time finding out what that is.
A word of caution, spending excessive amounts of hours following others can be seen as stalking. It’s important to curve our appetites when it comes to obsessing about other people’s lives.
Let people get to know you, the real you, in person. If you really want to be liked, offer your authenticity in person, not just on your public social profile or through your images. There’s no need to embellish your true self.
When was the last time you volunteered, spoke publicly or led a team? This kind of interaction is more valuable because it’s a way to gague your strengths and weaknesses and work or build upon them. Let’s face it, when was the last time you posted about your shortcomings?
Have you ever met someone in person who is half of what they said online? In business, this is called misrepresentation and people can be sued for this. Okay, I don’t expect to be taken to court because I don’t look nearly as well as I did twenty years ago. However, wouldn’t you rather leave a great first impression over a disappointment? I know someone personally close to me whose date walked out on her the minute they met in person!
We’re all a bit guilty of puffing a little when it comes to our online profiles but if you want to have an honest relationship from the beginning, be transparent – show up in the flesh. Meet up! Let others decide if they “like” you face to face. This brings me to my next point.
MEETING FACE TO FACE FEELS UNCOMFORTABLE?
If meeting people face to face is uncomfortable, this is a sure sign that you’re spending way too much time in front of a screen. You may be loosing your interpersonal skills. Social media addiction is a real problem and it’s on the rise. In China there are recovery centers for teens who need help cutting off from their phones!
Humans are geared to be in community. Depression has been attributed to the lack of social communication and much of it is due to smart gadgets. It’s important to have personal interaction and it’s essential for our survival.
In person, one can sense people’s emotions and thoughts, helping us to have better exchanges. Have you ever met someone for the first time and your heart raced from excitement or it shrunk in fear? When you can “read” someone’s eyes as they stand in front of you, or you can feel their energy, you’re off to a good start. This can’t be done on a computer screen. Spending time in community is important for health and happiness and it’s also a better indicator of compatibility.
Video chatting is great and has made our globe one small village but it will never replace person to person contact. If you’re scared or nervous about meeting people, the best thing to do is to get out of your comfort zone. Consider joining a club or professional group and start attending live events. Better yet, volunteer to speak publicly!
USING SOCIAL MEDIA PRODUCTIVELY?
How are you using social media? Are you following gossipy conversations? Are the groups or is your SOI prone to putting others down, using foul language, or posting negativity?
Before joining a group, ask yourself how is this contributing to my personal growth and the growth of others? Following a conversation can be valuable when it’s thought provoking, empowering or educational. Be the one that always brings value. Raise the bar. Make this world a better place.
Have you developed FOMO, the fear of missing out? When engaging in social media, don’t accept everything as the gospel truth. Question what you read or see. And, never feel the need to keep up. The last U.S. presidential election is a perfect example of how information can be manipulated to serve someone’s agenda. Learn to be a skeptical online consumer.
If you want to share your happiness, talk to them. Pick up the phone – yeah, that old gadget used to hear people’s voices. Better yet, go see them.
DERAILED IF YOUR PHONE GOES MISSING?
Who hasn’t forgotten or lost their phone at some point? I’ve turned around to retrieve mine but only when I’ve been one or two blocks away from home. Otherwise, I let it go. It’s a great way to prove to myself that I’m not addicted to it. One way to reinforce this belief is to take my dog out for a walk without it.
Life is going to happen with or without my phone. I’m a positive thinker. I see the glass half full and refuse to worry about “what ifs?” There’s no greater captor than fear and unless you’re a trader, as I used to be, you don’t need your phone 24/7. I never want a gadget to control me.
POSTPONING OR IGNORING RESPONSIBILITIES
As a digital marketer I have dozens of online to do’s each day. Engaging on social media is just one task. There are ads to be placed. Analytics to be studied. Websites to be updated. Campaigns to be tweaked. Vlogs to be created. Articles to be written. Webinars to participate in. Events to attend. Video calls to host. Follow-up emails to write. Broadcasts to send out. The list, at times, seems endless.
Social media is a huge part of business today. But it’s not the only way to grow a business. It’s too easy to spend an entire day on Facebook, YouTube and Instagram “following” others instead of being the true and unique creators that we are. Ask yourself, am I contributing or following? How is this helping my business to grow?
How much time is too much on social media? Only you know. If you’re ignoring chores at work, your family, your homework or other responsibilities in favor of Snap-chatting, Tweeting, Face-timing or the like, then it’s time to change your modus operandi.
Look at it this way. If you owned a company and your employees spend most of their time at work texting or tweeting, how likely are you to give them a raise, promote them or keep them on the payroll? Would you feel you’re getting your money’s worth if they’re on salary?
MORE THAN 3 HOURS A DAY?
The Washington Post reports that on average teens spend nearly nine hours a day on social media. Are you someone who can pry away from a screen easily? Can you go for several hours without engaging? Are you comfortable attending events without your smart gadget? Engage in live conversations instead.
Imagine how much more accomplished you’d be if instead of spending nine hours a day on social media, you took up an instrument or a new discipline? What about volunteering for a few hours each day while you leave your device behind? I venture to say you’d be happier and more fulfilled. Don’t get me wrong, I understand that the world cannot operate without gadgets but I recognize that they’ve taken away precious time from acquiring other skills that may be more in line with our calling.
FEELING A NEED TO POST ANYTHING
Are you someone who can’t just follow a group’s conversation without adding an Emoji or making a comment every time someone writes something? This can be irritating for others in the group who may not be interested in your likes or opinions. Put your phone down. There are better uses of your time. Maybe the dog needs a walk. Maybe you’re overdue to go to the gym. Maybe it’s time to think about dinner. Keep your phone out of someone else’s conversation.
There’s a fine line between participating and irritable posting in a group. Showing appreciation for someone in a group is nice just don’t overdo it. Incessant participation means you’ve developed a pattern and patterns, like habits, are hard to break.
MULTIPLE SOCIAL MEDIA ACCOUNTS?
How many social media accounts do you have? Can you consolidate? If your business doesn’t require it, why have so many? What can you accomplish with several accounts that you can’t with only one? Only you can answer these questions.
Having too many accounts is a nuisance. It requires remembering or safely keeping somewhere countless user names and passwords as well as spending time maintaining them. If you’re going to keep multiple accounts, at least work smarter. This is where syndication works nicely. If you must post to several accounts, there are platforms like Onlywire that will send out to all of them.
More isn’t necessarily better. When it comes to social media, sometimes posting less is more. It gives your follower an opportunity to fill in the gaps and reach out to you to learn more. It’s basic Advertising 101. Don’t give out too much information or there’s no reason for people to contact you!
CREATING SEVERAL CHAT GROUPS
Some people incessantly create new chat groups. Groups are great for keeping members posted on breaking news, meetings, classes, and updates but it’s important to be respectful and not use a group to vent or “speak your mind”. No one appreciates verbal diarrhea. If you’re lonely, go out and meet someone!
There’s group chat etiquette. You don’t need to post something in a group chat when it is intended for only one person. Why not let the individual decide if the information is important enough for the rest of the group to know.
If you’re prone to creating groups, ask yourself what value and intention it has. From the onset, have rules about who can engage and how it should operate. Without these guidelines in place, they can become a free for all. Lately, I’ve turned off all the sounds on my phone because I’m tired of incessant alerts from continuous postings.
The more groups you start, the more distractions you’ll have, the less efficient you’ll be and the less productive your day.
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Crushing it at life doesn’t mean wrestling it to the ground. It’s quite the opposite. When you’re aligned, life flows. It’s like riding the top of a wave and letting it carry you through to its unfolding. Doors open, your timing is perfect and everything is effortless. Fighting or struggling is unnecessary. People who surf through life are well positioned, balanced and they have these 8 traits for crushing it at life.
This is the most important, and oftentimes the most overlooked, step to succeed at just about anything. When starting a new business or new project, your mission is the first place you start. Why should it be any different for your life? Take the time to reflect what you want, why you want it and how you’re going to get there. If your “why” is big enough your chances of succeeding are great.
Your mission defines your objectives. Having a purpose gives meaning to your existence. It’s no wonder that some people who lose their jobs or become empty nesters seem lost. Their reason for “being” has been taken away. It’s the ones who get up and dust themselves off quickly that win the game.
Why are people like Tony Robbins, Oprah Winfrey, Richard Branson and others at the top of their game? They’ve defined their mission and little deters them from achieving it. Nothing crushes them, no matter how big the wave is.
While your mission is your purpose, your vision is your desired future. It’s the road map to get you there. Your vision is fueled by an undeniable passion, a reason, a purpose that only you can feel. Happy people are tuned into and follow their calling. They operate from a place of inspiration, the sweetest place to be.
Vision gives them focus and keeps them from useless distractions, getting sidetrack or meaningless activities that don’t contribute to their mission.
To “crush it” at life, write down your mission and vision statements and put them where you’ll see and be reminded of them every day.
Focus is an unyielding determination to accomplish what you set out to do. Think of a laser beam. Why is it so powerful? It produces an intense and narrow beam of light that can burn through anything. Be laser-focused, put on blinders and be equally piercing. Crush through barriers. Go around, crawl underneath, jump over them.
Falling off the board is bound to happen. But, if you’re focused, you’ll get right back up again and ride the next wave. With each new ride you’ll see and experience new things. You may even learn how to do something better.
Focus requires envisioning. What do you see? Keep the picture in your mind as often as you can. Those who achieve their dreams kept them in focus.
This came up on my Facebook feed posted by Jay Shetty, one of my favorite influencers. “Winners focus on winning, losers focus on winners.” Which one are you?
We live in a noise-filled world that keeps us from connecting with ourselves and with others. Take time for personal reflection and to be serviceful. Discipline is the methodology to productivity and success. It means doing something repeatedly until it seems effortless. It’s like the muscle memory I’ve gained in Ashtanga yoga. There’s a sequence of postures and having repeatedly done them for so long, they’re now second nature to me. They’re no longer an effort but an experience I look forward to.
A daily log helps to develop discipline. It keeps us on track and it’s a way to look back and see how far you’ve gone. It doesn’t have to be long. A bulleted list will do.
Don’t be tough on yourself when you can’t stick to your regimen. Life happens. Kids may need you. Your pet may fall ill. You may get a flat tire. The boss may want you to stay later. When you can’t meet what you set out to do, be happy with what you’ve accomplished thus far. Go easy but remain disciplined.
Be clear on the difference between busyness and productivity. I know a lot of people who have no time for anything yet they seem to accomplish very little. It’s better to do one thing really well than ten incomplete or meaningless ones, just for the sake of filling your calendar. When you do something, do it from the heart. Set your intention to a higher purpose. Remember the Law of Attraction, what you put out you get back.
When I look at ascended thinkers like Esther (Abraham) Hicks, they have one thing in common. Very little seems to agitate them. They maintain equilibrium under all kinds of circumstances. They’ve learned not to react under adverse conditions.
Those crushing it at life are observers, not reactors. They see setbacks as growing opportunities. For them, road blocks are stepping stones to go even higher. Life never happens to them. They make life happen. They create circumstances by their mindset and they never think of themselves as victims.
Charles Swindoll best put it: “The longer I live, the more I realize the impact of attitude on life. … The only thing we can do is play on the one string we have, and that is our attitude … I am convinced that life is 10% what happens to me, and 90% how I react to it.”
The happiest people on earth are unaffected by what others think. “Remaining unswayed by what other people assert” is an ancient teaching for crushing it at life. Successful people are not special. They’ve merely learned to listen to their inner voice and drown others out.
Life crushers hang around Masters. They keep like-minded company to strengthen their convictions. Tony Robbins built an empire by drowning out critics and continuously learning from other great achievers.
Masters rarely compare themselves to others. They march to the beat of their own drum. They take risks. They think out of the box. They question. They typically don’t follow the norm. They’re always learning, growing and evolving. This often puts them on a lonely path. However, like the thrill of riding a wave, it’s an experience you must do on your own. No one else can do it for you.
Those crushing it at life, rarely think of experiences in terms of gain or loss. They go with the flow. Like a surfer, when they fall, they get right back up again. Winners don’t waste thoughts on the fall but on the next ride. To crush it at life, this is the mindset you need. Think differently than the masses.
Being unique is what makes successful individuals so attractive. A rare object has more value. It’s more appealing. It’s sought-after. Think of someone that inspires you. What stands out about them? I venture to say you’re attracted to them because they’re unlike anyone else. They’re one of a kind.
Life crushers are not afraid to be themselves, even when people dismiss them as being weird or different. This characteristic makes them stand out. In some cases, it makes them magnetic.
Those crushing it at life fear or reject being average. They’re impassioned about growing and are continuously learning. It’s why they outgrow others and the reason they stand out.
Successful people lead more balanced lives. I was raised to think that things could only be one sided: good or bad, right or wrong, black or white. This puts too much emphasis in one direction. It’s taken me a lifetime to understand that what may be right in one situation may not be right in another.
Like a pendulum, ife swings back and forth. It doesn’t favor one side. From where I’m standing things look very differently to a person across the street. To crush it at life, we need this understanding. It will keep us from feeling flustered when the pendulum doesn’t rest in our direction.
This awareness comes with life experience. In Chinese philosophy, it’s the ying and the yang, two sides of the same coin. When we operate from this point of view, we can’t be crushed when waves come.
Keeping balance means not placing too much weight on one side. There’s little benefit to working out if you’re not eating healthily. While having money is fun, using debt to buy things may not be the smartest option. Mental over-stimulation can be disastrous if you can’t keep the mind calm.
They key is to know when we’re out of balance and do something about it. To be happy, model the Masters and mirror these 8 traits for crushing it at life. You’ve already taken the first step by being here.
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I learned a lesson about the importance of always keeping your dream alive. After my book was published in 2014, I began doubting its value and questioned my dream about touching lives around the world with its message. I wondered if anyone outside the United States would be interested in what I had to say. As I reread it, I thought “I wish I had said this or written that.” As most of us are, I’m my own worst critic.
MONDAY NIGHT QUARTERBACK?
How often do we question decisions after we make them? It’s one of the worst things that we can do for our state of health and mind. A Monday night quarterback is a person who passes judgment on or criticizes something after the event. Being a Monday night quarter back splits our energy and keeps us from focusing on the next step. It’s often the reason people take no action at all. They rather do nothing than to make a mistake.
The best advice I ever heard comes from Abraham (Esther) Hicks, “Make a decision and then make the decision right. Line up your Energy with it. In most cases, it doesn’t really matter what you decide. Just decide. There are endless options that would serve you enormously well, and all or any one of them is better than no decision.”
We have been conditioned to think that when things don’t turn out as we thought, that they’re mistakes. We need to rethink this. When we do something to the best of our ability and with the highest intention for good, there is no such thing as an error. There are a myriad of outcomes possible and our role is simply to put the energy forward.
Life is about discovering what we prefer. Without contrast, how would we know what we like and don’t like? All experiences, whether perceived as positive or negative, are lessons from which we grow. When we have an inspiration to do something, we should make a decision and move forward.
Despite my post-assessment of the book, I contacted a foreign publicist to see if there would be interest abroad. Fast forward months later, I received two-dozen copies of my book published in Polish and a contract for its publication in Turkey. My role was simply to put it out there and to let the Universe take care of the rest. The matrix filled in without my telling it what to do and despite my literary criticism.
CHALLENGES ALONG THE WAY
Life’s challenges, at times, have a way of diminishing our confidence. When unexpected circumstances shake our beliefs, it’s important to get back up, dust ourselves off and keep going. Had I not been fired from a non-profit (as a result of disobeying orders for the benefit of saving lives), lost my confidence about being a valuable worker or “bought into” the idea that getting fired means I was no good, I probably would not have founded a humanitarian agency that touched lives around the world.
When we’re feeling insecure or get stuck, there are several things we can do to snap out of that state. We can listen to motivational speakers, hang around inspirational people and stay away from naysayers. I had some critics when my book came out. Despite them, I went out looking for international exposure.
Life is meant to have challenges and contrasts. How else can we grow and define what we want unless we know what we don’t want?
THE BEST COUNSELOR
To achieve your dreams, you must tune out negative talk, especially from yourself. Undesirable inner conversation is harmful to your well-being and to your growth.
If you want advice, look for it inside yourself in the quiet of meditation. In silence you will connect to the Source of all creation. We have within us a guiding system, our intuition, that always points us in the right direction. This nudging comes in the form of a gut feeling or a desire. Sometimes we dismiss this inner voice thinking that other people’s are more important or because it’s drowned out by external chatter. Children are great at following their promptings and it’s why they’re mostly happy and live playfully.
Have you ever been told that you couldn’t do something? What was it? Who said it and did you go along? Why?
All of us have conversations with ourselves. What story are we telling? It’s important to keep our thoughts in check. If we repeat a dialog long enough, eventually it becomes a belief. Beliefs are very difficult to let go of. A thought can be changed instantly.
It’s important to envision our dreams and keep that focus until they become realities. Thoughts become things. Be happy with your thoughts and hang in there long enough to see your dreams come alive.
We’re vibrational beings. The thoughts and energy we put out we receive back, so they might as well be the best. It’s the Universal Law of Attraction. As a child, did you dream about being someone or doing something? Is your dream still in focus? Until you achieve it, you will always feel like there’s something missing in your life, like there’s something left undone.
What steps are you taking to keep your vision alive? What do you have left to accomplish? What is keeping you from reaching it and how can I help you get there?
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A successful business professional with the public interest at heart is an ascended entrepreneur.
There are countless individuals around the world who have reached a level of success and wish they could give something of value back to society but don’t know where to begin. They’re stumped thinking, erroneously, that they need vast financial resources like Melinda and Bill Gates to make a huge impact. I was one of them.
In 2003 I founded a 501 (c) (3) non-profit, Volunteers on Call, Inc., with the mission of raising public awareness about the value of volunteering and to provide opportunities for service to homeless and underserved populations.
We took volunteers around the world to build houses, classrooms, churches and work in orphanages as well as teach. We sent volunteers to Thailand after the 2004 Indian Ocean Tsunami to help in the reconstruction of the area and provided computers to the Cameron Parish school system in Louisiana after hurricanes Rita and Katrina.
Volunteers paid their way to participate in VOC programs and put in sweat equity, literally. Quite often our projects took us to high heat, high humidity areas around the world like the Amazon in Peru and rain forests in Costa Rica where amenities like air conditioning are non-existent. Many participants used vacation time to further our cause. Some even pooled funds, when we were in the field, for the purchase of building and school supplies.
Other than a six-month period when we paid an Executive Director, no one on staff or the Board of Directors drew any salaries. The organization’s expenses were minimal and our mission was to keep very low overhead. Our office space, utilities, equipment and supplies were donated allowing us to use 100% of financial contributions for programs.
Our single largest fund raising effort raised around $60K. The average event yielded much smaller amounts. In the eyes of philanthropic circles, VOC’s efforts were insignificant but in the hearts of the recipients our efforts were invaluable. Volunteers never returned the same.
“Who could have imagined that a spring break trip to Thailand would ultimately lead to the experience of a lifetime? After returning from a short vacation there, my best friend and I were filled with a passion to go back to Koh Phi Phi, an island that had been all but destroyed by the 2004 tsunami. Volunteers on Call turned these dreams into a reality by adopting our program and actually making it happen. Five weeks later, we had raised enough money to return to teach the local children there for the next eight months. This life-changing journey certainly never would have been possible without the insight, support and ‘can do’ attitude of this organization.” VOC may not have changed the world but we changed someone’s world.
My single greatest desire, and what I believe to be my purpose, is to help raise the consciousness of people and the vibration of the planet in whatever way I can. It’s in service to others that we expand our hearts. Traveling the world has brought down barriers in my mind and erased biased ideas about other people and cultures.
One thing I learned while mixing cement with a shovel in a construction pit is that around the world, we’re more alike than we think. All of us have basic desires. We want freedom, security, health and financial success. When we strip away labels, colors and nationalities, we have more in common than differences.
In my quest for understanding, compassion and evolution, I’ve met some incredible teachers and learned from highly evolved mentors. These are masters of ascension who work tirelessly in service to others without compromising their entrepreneurial desires. You can have both. You can be spiritual and financially successful. Let me introduce you to some of them:
Brian Weiss, M.D.
Clint Rogers, Ph.D.
Abraham (Esther) Hicks
Rudy Tanzi and Deepak Chopra M.D.
Here’s wishing you success in all your efforts and hoping you materialize all your desires!
Space, the final frontier? I beg to differ, Mr. Roddenberry. The final frontier, in my opinion, lies within us, within the confines of our thoughts and within our power. Unlike outer space, a domain where only a very privileged few will travel to, inner space is accessible to all and it’s free. It’s a world that we can visit any time, anywhere and go there at a moment’s notice. It’s a realm of infinite possibilities, endless joy and infinite potential. Why? Because unlike outer space, we create our inner space.
Do you know how to access your inward world? Just go within. Meditate. It has been said that each of us has the potential to light up the earth. I believe this. We just have not discovered how. But it doesn’t mean it can’t be done. The potential is there. Perhaps we haven’t found a way yet because we’re not ready for this kind of power. Maybe we aren’t prepared to use this kind of energy. But we can. Masters of all ages have made this known to us. They have told us that we are beings of energy. Why does the world “light up” at the tweet of something wonderful? Because we’re connected through energy.
What is energy other than usable power? Google definitions for energy include: the strength and vitality required for sustained physical or mental activity, vitality, vigor, life, liveliness, animation, vivacity, spirit, spiritedness, verve, enthusiasm, zest, vibrancy, spark, sparkle, effervescence, ebullience, exuberance, buoyancy.
Imagine the benefits to humanity by exploring your potential, capturing your ability and sharing that power instantly around the world. Today, that kind of immediate exposure can only be done online. Perhaps tomorrow it will be done telepathically. But for now, using the tools we have available, digital communication is the fastest and most efficient way of sharing information globally.
The potential for using digital marketing as an altruistic tool is enormous. Look at what people like Tony Robbins, Robert Kiyosaki, Bob Proctor, Esther Hicks and Louise Hay are doing online. They have tapped into their inner power and money, for them, has just been a byproduct of helping others. Imagine leaving behind the 9 – 5 schedule, doing something purposeful, quitting the commute and getting paid for your efforts. Like space, the power of a digital life is limitless. Look shortly for our updated website under the Digital Freedom tab to learn how you can create a purposeful mobile digital lifestyle business.
Now go within. Listen to your inner voice. Find your power. Explore the ultimate final frontier. What is it telling you? What would you do with your digital life?
This great article was written by Endoca and Published on 04/18/19
Whether you’re a fresh newcomer, just being welcomed into the world of CBD – or you’re an experienced believer always on the hunt for more answers, we understand that it doesn’t take long for the questions about CBD to pile up.
Now, we want you to feel both heard and well-informed, and so we decided to cover one of the most commonly asked questions among you guys; how long does CBD stay in your system?
Before we get to that, what do you say we take a step back and dive into the basics for a bit first. At the end of the day, what does it help knowing how long CBD stays in your system, if you don’t know much about what happens when CBD enters your system.
What Is CBD?
Simply put, CBD (also known as cannabidiol) is a natural compound found in the cannabis sativa plant. The oil that we produce here at Endoca is derived from the hemp plant in particular, which means that it contains no more than 0.3% THC (the natural compound that is known for getting you ‘high’). We put great effort and attention into our oil production and take pride in following the process from seed to final product closely.
How Does CBD Work?
CBD works by interacting with your endocannabinoid system. This system, also known as the ECS is a key homeostatic regulator in the body that plays a vital role in almost every physiological system. These include things like sleep, mood, appetite, weight and so on. The endocannabinoid system is best explained as a vast network of receptors and chemical compounds. These receptors impact your overall well-being and are themselves stirred up – and activated – by natural compounds like CBD.
The cannabinoid receptors line the surface of cells that are spread throughout your body. There are at least two types of receptors that work as part of your endocannabinoid system: CB1 receptors that are most abundant in your central nervous system (CNS), and CB2 receptors that are found outside of the CNS, including in your white blood cells and in the cells of your immune system.
This means that by reaching out to these receptors, chances are that we can begin to impact and help a long line of diseases and conditions that are created in either the central nervous system, in the blood cells – or in the immune system.
Now, this is where CBD comes into the picture and quickly takes center stage, because by stimulating the cannabinoid receptors in the endocannabinoid system, CBD can, in fact, potentially wake up your system and start working towards restoring your overall balance and well-being.
CBD has the potential to help a long line of conditions such as:
- Chronic Pain & Pain Management
- Stress & Anxiety
- Depression & Sleep
- Mental illness
- Asthma & Allergies
- Hormonal Health & Nutritional problems
- Bone Health & Inflammation
- Recovery & Reproductive Health
How Long Does CBD Stay In My Body?
A recent study suggests that it can take up to 2-5 days for CBD to leave your body. However, all bodies are different, and so the amount of time it takes for the molecule to leave your body might not be the same as the time it takes for CBD to leave your best friend’s body.
Simply put, the time it takes CBD to leave your system after consumption depends on the following three things:
1) How much CBD oil we’re talking about
This probably goes without saying for most people, but the amount of CBD is bound to have an impact on the time frame CBD works within. The lesser CBD, the shorter the stay in the body – and the bigger the dose, the longer CBD will rest in your body.
2) How often you’re taking CBD
When talking about CBD clearance time, it’s important to note that the frequency of your CBD oil consumption is a rather important aspect. If you try CBD oil once, it’s not going to stay in your body for as long as when you’re using it as a sleep inducer with frequent use.
Based on early data, these are general guidelines to keep in mind:
- Single use: it stays up to 3 days
- Moderate use: it stays up to 3 to 5 days
- Repeated use: it stays up to 10 days (perhaps more)
3) The delivery method you’ve chosen
When we talk about delivery methods, we also talk about bioavailability. Generally speaking, the bioavailability of a substance is the degree and rate that it is absorbed into the bloodstream after any other processing in the body.
Now, most people are not aware of the bioavailability of their particular chosen method of consumption, but as bioavailability has everything to do with the effect of CBD, this is definitely something worth paying attention to.
In addition to this, it’s important to keep in mind that the time it takes CBD to leave your body also depends on a group of individual factors such as body weight, individual biochemistry, and lifestyle.
We can’t say this often enough, but all bodies are different and so we’re bound to sometimes react differently to what we put inside them. Therefore, a good rule is to always pay attention to the signals your body is sending you and to go slow when it comes to introducing your system to something new.
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THIS IS A GUEST BLOG WRITTEN BY CHRIS, HEAD WRITER AT INDIVIDUALIST.COM
In today’s world, people are easily distracted. With the advent of social media and smartphones, social interaction has taken an entirely new level. As such, with one’s phone in hand, a person can easily be distracted by the iconic iPhone buzz or the lack thereof.
As an example, the problem above lies as one of the main reasons why people find it difficult to focus on. Their attention seems to be on something else, making them easily distracted from the task-at-hand.
With this, here are five easy steps to ensure that you can practice mindfulness meditation and achieve that inner peace!
- Empty Your Mind
Before anything else, the most crucial point is understanding that meditation is all about emptying your mind. Like a cup filled with liquid, the task of meditating requires that we empty that cup, allowing it to become a vessel for new ideas and perceptions.
By emptying your mind, you release yourself from all the negativity that arises from idle thinking. Furthermore, you are also allowing space for active thinking, a crucial element in raising mindfulness.
- Unblock Chakra Points
The state of inner peace which leads to mindfulness can be difficult to achieve when our chakra points are blocked by negative energy. Given that the flow of the cosmic universe passes through these 7 points, making sure that they are unblocked is crucial in achieving a harmonious inner flow of energy.
With the flow of positive energy, you will feel more attuned with the universe. This will lead to better receptiveness and attentiveness on things around you.
- Use the power of Healing Crystals (Gypsum)
Another method to amplify the first step is to utilize the power of healing stones. Given the stored energy and vibrations within them, healing stones are great companions in unblocking your chakra points.
Gypsum, for instance, contains properties which can improve self-awareness at the spiritual level, making it easier for us to tap onto the unconscious for further support. Such vibrations will enhance the whole meditation process on the spiritual level.
- Consciously raise your Awareness
The key to improving mindfulness is being mindful of our awareness levels. When we are unable to realize this, we can never achieve inner peace given that we are likely struggling to keep up with the fast-paced 21st-century lifestyle.
Thus, when doing our own set of meditation, we have to consciously raise our awareness levels, hoping that this course of action will reach the unconscious levels of the psyche.
- Live in the Present
Aside from not settling with the flow, another key concept in mindfulness and inner peace meditation is living in the present.
Living in the present means that our mind is focused on what’s happening right here, right now. In other words, mindful meditation requires that we can focus on a deeper level and not simply on external stimuli that influences our choices.
With this, we will exercise higher levels of self-control, making inner peace a habit instead of a conscious choice.
Given these five simple steps, achieving that state of inner peace becomes possible. Like the harmonious flow of the waterfall, inner peace requires mindfulness of one’s self and others.
Chris writes for individualogist.com, a website dedicated to helping individuals identify and learn about their personality archetypes. The site also offers a wealth of wisdom about spirituality, self-discovery, and astrology. You can identify your archetype by taking their archetype test here.
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The gig economy refers to primarily short term or freelance work. If you’re a gigger, you’re self employed, an independent contractor not on salary. WhatIs.com defines the gig economy as “a free market system in which temporary positions are common and organizations contract with independent workers for short-term engagements.”
An independent contractor can be a person, business or corporation. In the U.S. typically (there are always exceptions) the distinction between a “gigger” and an employee is whether you file annual taxes with a 1099-MISC or a W-2 form.
We tend to think of freelancers as writers, entertainers, actors, producers, models, personal trainers, athletes, artists and others. We don’t typically assume entrepreneurs, consultants, affiliates, multi-level marketers, network marketers, real estate agents, sales representatives, mortgage brokers and hundreds of others also fall into this category.
Think of this segment of the labor force like this. When a real estate agent closes a transaction, that’s it. Unless he/she has other business in the pipeline, they have to find a new gig. There’s no more income. Most entrepreneurs need to create new business on a regular basis. They represent one of the largest segments of the gig economy.
Crushing it as a gigger doesn’t mean you need to wrestle your choice of profession to the ground. If you love what you do, it’s quite the opposite. When you’re aligned with your vocation, life flows. It’s like riding the top of a wave and letting it carry you through to its unfolding. Doors open, your timing is perfect and most things are effortless. “Laboring” is unnecessary, particularly if you approach your business with confidence and focused vision. Those who succeed in the gig economy are well balanced like a surfer on top of a wave. They typically have the following traits.
This is the simplest yet most overlooked requirement for succeeding at just about anything. When contemplating a new business or career, especially in the gig economy, defining your mission is the first place to start. Ask yourself why do you want to do this? If you’re why is big enough, very little will stop you from succeeding. Making money is secondary to your intrinsic reason for wanting to succeed.
Your mission is your assignment. It defines your objectives. It’s no wonder that employees who lose their jobs are lost, at least initially. They’ve mistaken their reason for doing for their reason for being.
While your mission is your purpose, your vision is your desired future. It’s the outcome you want from your efforts. It creates the road map to get you to your goal. Your vision is fueled by an undeniable passion, a reason, a purpose that’s uniquely yours. The highest achievers and most successful people are driven by it. They operate from a place of inspiration and intuition, which can only be found by quieting the mind. You can’t find your vision by thinking about it only be “feeling” it.
Vision provides focus and keeps one on track. Write down your mission and vision and put it where you’ll see it and be reminded of them daily. Avoid getting sidetracked on useless activities.
CREATE A TIMELY BUSINESS
Automation has made thousands of careers and trades obsolete. This will continue to grow exponentially each year.
Whether an individual or a business, we all bank, invest and shop through a smart gadget or on a screen. We’re in the digital economy and we transact everything from investments, buying houses to shoes to services online.
A study by Intuit predicts that “by 2020, 40 percent of American workers will be independent contractors.” This means that nearly half of the labor force in this country could transition into the gig economy. It’s not too early to consider an online career or at least an education, if you’re not already comfortable being digital.
It’s wonderful to be untethered to a desk, an office or a geographical location. My business goes wherever I go and I have fun with it. I carry it on my laptop. Even if I lose or break the computer, my systems are in the cloud and easily accessible from anywhere. It’s awesome to run your business lying at the beach.
If you want to succeed in the gig economy, get ahead of the wave. Create a timely business that’s in demand and scalable. It should have the potential to multiply growth quickly. Multi-level organizations and business models with teams work on this premise.
Start your gig while entry level is on the rise. If you wait until the top of the bell curve, it’s usually too late to make an impact on the market or get a significant return on your investment.
Pick a business that has no age entry barrier. Whether you’re 20 or 60, your venture should be doable. I must admit, I feel older individuals have an advantage over unseasoned entrepreneurs. Typically, due to their time “in the trenches” they have developed a bit more resilience and are not as easily discouraged when challenges come along. They don’t take rejection or failure as hard. So here’s a bit of advice, team or partner up with a seasoned individual! Recruiting skilled and talented people will enable your company to grow.
Some of the best companies are headed up by people over fifty. Arkenea.com wrote an excellent article that states: “Rather than living fast and dying young, a surprising number of people are stepping into entrepreneurship in and around the period of their retirement and some post that! After all, their broad and deep knowledge, management experience, and large professional networks certainly gives them an edge at that age. With a high-quality software development company, it’s not tough to get the initial version of their ideas built out quickly.”
Consider a business where services or products are highly sought-after. Natural and holistic forms of healing as well as CBD and hemp products are in huge demand right now. Combine this with a business model that has a reputable and established company behind it, offers geometric growth, provides back office tools and attractive compensation plans, then you have a winning combination. This is a great way to build any business and have passive, residual or retirement income.
Focus is the unyielding determination to accomplish what you set out to do. Think of a beam of light. The stream is powerful because it produces a focused intense energy. To live your dreams, put on blinders and be as equally intense as a laser.
Align yourself with like-minded individuals. Join a community that supports your vision. It will provide the energy you need, especially when you’re down. Independents tend to work alone. It’s helpful to have an objective group or individual where you can turn to for ideas. Groups also provide an opportunity to help others who may be a few steps behind you.
Discipline is the methodology we use to accomplish our goals. It takes repeated practice and training to make something seem easy. It’s no different with having discipline. I compare it to muscle memory in my Ashtanga yoga practice. There’s a sequence to the postures that we must practice over and over again. After a time, we don’t think about the process, we just do it automatically.
It helps to have a log outlining tasks you want to accomplish each day. It doesn’t have to be long or detailed. A bulleted list is good and it avoids over-listing.
Don’t be tough on yourself when you can’t stick to your plan. Life happens. Kids may need you. Your pet may fall ill. You may get a flat tire. Go easy. When you can’t meet what you set out to do, be happy with what you’ve accomplished.
Be clear on the difference between busyness and productivity. I know a lot of people who are overscheduled, have no time for anything and accomplish very little. It’s better to do one thing really well than ten incomplete or meaningless ones.
Here are other practices that will help you to succeed in the gig economy:
- Define your avatar. Who is your target market and how will you reach them? If your audience is a millenial, you can forget using email. If your focus is on baby boomers, SnapChat or WhatsApp may not be the best platform to find them. Match your methodoloty to your audience.
- Successful independents do some or all of the income-generating activities I list here. Every profession is different. In affiliate marketing, for example, placing ads, posting on social media, blogging, vlogging and making contact with your target audience daily is essential.
Getting the word out about your offering in whatever form it requires for your profession is essential. The goal is to build a list of contacts or subscribers to whom you can offer ongoing value until they decide to do business with you. Offering value instead of trying to make a sale develops credence, trustworthiness and loyalty.
- As an employee, your employer pays your taxes. As a gigger, it is up to you to put aside money for tax time. Don’t be caught on April 15th (in the U.S.) short of funds. Put aside a percentage of each payment to you for taxes.
- I believe in investing a portion for growth and contingencies, too.
- Improve and upgrade your business regularly. Check links to make sure they work. Do you need to hire a web-master to update your site? Can you use another set of hands to write better blogs or create new designs?
There are countless online services such as 99Designs.com that will make your load lighter. Outsourcing is a smart way to delegate activities that take up too much of your time, energy and effort. Work smarter not harder.
- Find a mentor, someone who has tread the path ahead of you and succeeded. Model them. They may steer you away from unnecessary challenges or point you to answers. Don’t rely on this individual to solve your problems. Work them out on your own. This is how you’ll learn and grow. This counselor should hold you accountable, cheer you on and be a great role model.
CALMNESS, BALANCE & FREEDOM
To succeed in any business it’s essential to remain calm, under all circumstances, especially when problems arise. To find solutions sometimes requires getting away from the problem. Finding a new environment to clear your head can help. As your own boss you can come and go as you please. An employee can’t walk out of the office every time a problem surfaces.
Those crushing their careers take charge of their attitudes. They perceive setbacks or attacks as growing opportunities. They use roadblocks as stepping stones to climb higher. Life never happens to them. They make it happen.
Success thinking requires equilibrium. I was raised in a one sided thinking household: good or bad, right or wrong. It’s taken me a lifetime to erase these polar beliefs. What may be right in one situation may not be right in another. How you see a situation makes the difference between having a success or a victim mentality.
Charles Swindoll said it best. “The longer I live, the more I realize the impact of attitude on life. … The only thing we can do is play on the one string we have, and that is our attitude … I am convinced that life is 10% what happens to me, and 90% how I react to it.”
Today’s younger labor force prefers to work remotely. They understand that environment is essential to good performance and that toxic workplaces hinder productivity.
Millenials also want more time freedom to do the things they love over solely making huge amounts of money. Quality of life is essential and time freedom to address family and personal needs is part of their success equation.
UNSWAYED BY OTHERS
Successful individuals remain unswayed by what other people think. They listen to their inner voice and drown others out. They spend quiet time reflecting or “sensing” their calling. To crush it in the gig economy, hang around Master thinkers. Keep like-minded company to strengthen your convictions.
Masters never compare themselves to others. They march to the beat of their own drum. They’re not concerned about social acceptance. They’re sole mission is to accomplish their duty.
Winners at life rarely think in terms of gaining or losing. They go with the flow and always maintain a healthy attitude. They’re typically unconcerned about being vulnerable. The waves of life don’t throw them off the surfboard. They focus on their dreams. It takes mastery to do this.
Think of someone you’re drawn to. What makes them tempting to hang around? I venture to say it’s because they’re one of a kind. Life crushers are not afraid to be themselves even when others dismiss them as being weird or different. Their uniqueness makes them magnetic.
Unique individuals fear or reject being average. It’s one of the reasons they’re impassioned about growing and are continuously learning. These are responsible for raising evolutionary mass consciousness and the awakening of the planet.
If you want to succeed consider modeling Masters and implementing some suggestions I’ve offered or ask me about building an online business. You may want to read this great additional article and comprehensive guide to succeed in a freelancing career. Here’s to crushing it in the gig economy!
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Have you ever said or heard someone else say: “When this happens,
I’ll be happy”
I’ll take my dream vacation”
I’ll go back to school”
I’ll spend more time at home”
I’ll loose weight”
I’ll buy my dream house”
I’ll give up smoking”
I’ll stop drinking”
Do you know that when you say “when this happens” you give
away complete control of your life to something, someone or some circumstance?
Why relinquish a power that’s in your possession? Giving away control of your dreams and visions is one reason so many people are disenchanted with life, angry or suffer from depression. Disempowerment, especially by choice, weakens our souls, bodies and minds.
Why do people deliberately give away their power? The answer is because we’re used to “conditional” thinking. We’ve been programmed to experience the world in a way that says “when this, then that.” But, just because that’s the way we were taught doesn’t mean we’re enslaved to that way of thinking forever. In fact, as our planet “awakens” to a higher state of being, many of our long-held ideas are being challenged. We’re becoming aware of our limitless mind.
Changing your outlook, to succeed on your own terms, is as
easy as changing one thought at a time. It doesn’t require a quantum leap. A belief is
just a thought we keep thinking over and over again. All we need to transform is to identify our
limiting beliefs and change them.
I was told as a child that I couldn’t sing and I believed
this all my life until recently when I took a tone-deaf test. It turns out that I can identify tones almost
perfectly. All I need is voice training.
Had I not taken the time to question something that someone told me years
ago, I would have never known my potential.
Ever wonder why great masters like the Buddha or Jesus
transcended suffering? They retrained
their thinking and behavior. We all have
the power to do the same. We can all be
leading edge thinkers and doers. We just
need to find vibrational harmony with our desires and create the life we want. Here are some ways.
LET YOUR VOICE BE HEARD
Every person that has ever existed landed on this earth with an innate desire to do or be something. Some are more attune to their calling than others. Those who take the time to listen and act on their intuition tend to live more fulfilling lives.
What is that for you? What do you desire to do or be most? What do you want to share with the rest of the world? Voice it, share your dream put your idea out into the Universe. If you need help, ask for it. Put on blinders, earplugs and stay away from naysayers. Receive criticism only as a stepping-stone to get you to the next level. And, always move forward with conviction!
Imagine our world without Jeff Besos or Larry Page and Sergey Brin (Google founders), Steve Jobs, Elon Musk, Jack Ma or Mark Zuckerberg. While not all of us may reach their super-sized public recognition, we shouldn’t be deterred from our vocation by confusing fame for influence. There are countless unsung heroes, inventors and influencers walking beside us every day.
A kind word from a teacher to a student may change that
There’s a great quote that says: “Be yourself. Everyone else is already taken.” When you’re true to your nature, you’re aligned with the Universe and it has to respond to your desires. This is not airy fairy thinking. This is the law of attraction which has scientific merit.
Let go of pleasing others.
Don’t act or do something to satisfy someone else’s expectations. When you live like this, you’re forever
chasing people to please. Oscar Wilde
said it best, “Selfishness is not living your life as you wish to live it. Selfishness
is wanting others to live their lives as you wish them to.”
Being authentic means not imposing your views on someone else. We all develop at different times and at different rates. If we’re to be consistent with our true selves we need to go at our own pace. We must stop comparing ourselves to others. This was one of the hardest lessons I learned during my digital marketing education. I was always gaging my progress with others. When I finally let go, I was able to appreciate the value of what I had learned and apply it to live out my desires.
Authenticity is a two way street. We must let others be themselves, give them the space they need without our passing judgment or influencing their actions. Coming from a business background, it was initially hard for me to let go and let our son become an actor. I’ve learned that when we bury or deny our true calling, eventually it comes out anyway – hopefully in a positive way. Everyone has their own lessons to learn and their own way to achieve success.
DO WHAT YOU LOVE
Visualization helps to achieve what you want. Start picturing how you want your life to unfold. Scientists at the Wellcome Trust Centre for Neuroimaging at the Institute of Neurology in London discovered that people who visualize a better future are more likely to bring that future into existence. Focus and visualize success.
Don’t be afraid of failing. When you do fall, and we all do, remember that it’s just a lesson on how not to do something. Setbacks are life’s way of showing you how to do something differently. We have the choice to come back from a mistake.
A BUSINESS OF YOUR DREAMS
If you could own your own business, what would it be? Have you written down your idea? Do you have a business plan? What steps are you taking to execute your vision? What has kept you from starting?
years I wanted to be my own boss, financially successful, geographically
flexible, do something purposeful and create my own destiny. The Internet has
made it possible for countless people to create lifestyle businesses, that is,
work around their personal needs.
husband and I have digital freedom. We
made a conscious decision to get ahead of the massive wave of downsized
individuals and those who will be made redundant because of automation taking
over traditional jobs.
Our businesses go with our laptops and we spend time as we wish. So long as we have a good Internet connection, we can “work” from anywhere. Thanks to countless tools available today such as apps, social media and digital marketing, anyone can create a successful e-commerce business in a fraction of the time and for a fraction of the cost than that of a traditional brick and mortar one. If you enjoy global trading, moving goods or services around the world, you can ship just about anything instantly without the hassle or the overhead of inventory, staff or offices.
Digitization has allowed me to create my brand and develop ventures that I truly love. One way that I’m doing this is by addressing rising demand for naturopathy and herbalism by raising public awareness about the benefits of hemp-derived products such as CBD. I also published a book, Agapanthus Rising, which challenges the reader to question traditional ways of thinking. I own a digital consultancy, Laptop Freedom Experts, which teaches individuals how to create a lifestyle business. It wasn’t easy reaching this point. I kissed a lot of frogs along the way but I learned invaluable lessons about building businesses and mostly about myself.
drive is always to grow. I’m impassioned about expanding
consciousness and helping others discover and live their life’s purpose. Using
quantum physics and the Universal Law of Attraction, I like to share
evolutionary ideas through inner awareness, mindful thinking and the raising of
one’s vibrational frequency. I believe we can create a new and better dimension
of mass consciousness one person at a time.
When we can combine
purpose and passion with profit, we’ve reached a state of balance – which is
the ultimate goal of ancient and modern-day wisdom Masters.
INFLUENCER, A VOICE FOR POSITIVE CHANGE
Hopefully succeeding on your own terms entails being an influencer, ultimately a voice for positive change. Through vlogs, podcasts, apps, channels, social media, conference calling, brand awareness, digital marketing, today we have countless ways of releasing the purpose within us and raising our planet’s vibration at the same time.
If you’re an influencer, hopefully you’re spreading ideas in a way that elevates the human condition. Some of my favorites are Jay Shetty, Prince EA, Ellen DeGeneres and Lady Gaga. We too, on the ground level, can influence those around us, one person at a time. We never know who is watching and modeling us. What are they seeing? Never give up your power to anyone, anything or any circumstance.
Check out some of my other articles here or visit my YouTube channel for ideas on succeeding on your own terms.
I flow against the tide frequently. I’m not a contrarian. I attribute my inquisitiveness the result of my upbringing. I was raised in Peru at a time when children were to be seen and never heard. Questioning adults, whether at home or school, was unspeakable and reason for punishment. Later, as I became an adult in the United States, I learned that the only way to grow and to be happy is to be an independent thinker – even if that means challenging the norm. So, at this time of year, when most people are traditionally making New Year resolutions, I’m taking inventory of the present one. It’s the idea of closing my circles before opening up new ones. For me, it’s a stress-free way to live and a way to grow from past experiences.
I ask myself thousands of questions throughout the year. During the holiday season, however, when business tends to slow down and there’s more time for reflection these are some that reoccur:
- What was the most valuable life lesson I learned this year?
- How can I use this experience to help others?
- Who was (were) the focus of my attention and why?
- Are these individuals helping me to grow/evolve and in what ways?
- How much time did I spend on personal growth?
- What did I focus on? Did I read books, listen to podcasts, attend workshops, join webinars or like-minded communities?
- What was my goal in doing so?
- How did I resolve a challenging situation?
- Did I stick to my values or did I compromise? Why or why not?
- Did I seek out company that aligns with my vision? Why or why not?
- On that note, do I have a vision and what is it?
- Who are the people I seek out when looking for a solution? Are they professionals, role models, influencers, heroes, authors, family members?
- How much personal and quiet time did I spend?
- How did I spend that time?
- When someone said or did something hurtful, how did I react?
- Could I have handled the situations differently?
- What activities make me happy?
- What can I be doing differently to keep me consistently upbeat and in a positive mindset?
- Where did I travel to this year and why?
- How did I react to new situations and people I met? Was I helpful? Did I have a smile on my face? Was I welcoming? Did I have kind words for them? Was I demanding?
- How do I want to be treated and why?
- How did my diet contribute to the overall health and well-being?
- Is there something I need to change such as diet or lifestyle? What is it and what has kept me from doing it?
- How much time did I spend outdoors in nature? How did I spend that time? What benefit did I get from it?
- What company am I keeping and is it time to reconsider some of those friendships, perhaps add new ones?
- How did I use my personal resources? Could I have given back more?
Annual reviews at work are essential for businesses to grow, so why not do the same thing with your personal life? The more we question, the better we know ourselves. Challenging our mindset and discovering new ways of thinking is how we find solutions and achieve growth. If we live year to year unquestioning, we’re just surviving not thriving.
I hope this gives you something to think about. We’re all differentand we’re all on diverse paths. The questions that pertain to me may not be relevant to your life. But, if you want to grow, take assessment of this year before you move on to the next. Ask yourself, how can I make the upcoming year a stellar one based on how I lived this one?
Here’s wishing you wisdom, peace,joy, love and financial success.